the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.
What are you looking for? What do you want for your future? What do you want for your loved ones Future? Do your actions show what you really want? Or do the promises you make yourself and others everyday show your true desires? Everyone has a family member or friend that they know will always put their best intentions out into the audible world, but when the time for action is upon them, they always have an excuse why they cannot fulfill those promises. Are you that person?
It doesn’t seem to matter what those promises are. It could be a promise to do whatever it takes to extend their lives by breaking addictions, or accepting medical treatment. Or it could just simply be the promise to be there for a child’s baseball game. If there is no true motivation to do the work it takes, there is always “failure” waiting for those promises.
Discipline;
is said to be the glue that holds our intentions together when motivation fails. The only fault in that is if you still “fail” to do those things that you say you want to do, Not only are you “unmotivated” but “undisciplined” also. Psychologically this is a big double whammy, and king of the best ways to beat yourself up with. I see so many people stuck in this space between motivation and discipline. Shooting volleys back and forth between what they want and their ability to get it until they are lost. Depression takes over and then “failure” becomes the gigantic monster in their life that stands at the door of every dream and aspiration shouting “don’t go in there” and “only go in if success is guaranteed”.
Stop this bus, I want to get off.
In order to help give the “Failure” monster his pink slip from your life. Here are a few ways that I have my clients find passion and joy from their journey to their healthiest life. Build a mental voice that praises them not punish and forever stop the Motivation-Discipline tennis match.
Make it a pleasure. One reason we might put off something that will help us achieve our goal, such as exercise for example, is because it seems like hard work. Well, this might be true, but the key is to find a way to make it fun or pleasurable. If your goal activity becomes a treat, you actually look forward to it. And that’s a good thing.
Give it time, be patient. I know, this is easier said than done. But the problem with many of us is that we expect quick results. When you think about your goals, think long term. If you want to lose weight, you may see some quick initial losses, but it will take a long time to lose the rest. If you want to run a marathon, you won’t be able to do it overnight. If you don’t see the results you want soon, don’t give up … give it time. In the meantime, be happy with your progress so far, and with your ability to stick with your goals. The results will come if you give it time.
Make it a rule never to skip two days in a row. This rule takes into account our natural tendency to miss days now and then. We are not perfect. So, you missed one day … now the second day is upon you and you are feeling lazy … tell yourself NO! You will not miss two days in a row! Zen Habits says so! And just get started. You’ll thank yourself later.
Always think positive. Monitor your thoughts. Be aware of your self-talk. We all talk to ourselves, a lot, but we are not always aware of these thoughts. Start listening. If you hear negative thoughts, stop them, push them out, and replace them with positive thoughts. Positive thinking can be amazingly powerful.
Simple, right? That is what makes them so successful. Be good to yourself and say nice things. Throw out those negative terms that make you feel alone and embrace the journey. Besides, nobody talks about my friends that way. ghouston@mvhospital.net
It doesn’t seem to matter what those promises are. It could be a promise to do whatever it takes to extend their lives by breaking addictions, or accepting medical treatment. Or it could just simply be the promise to be there for a child’s baseball game. If there is no true motivation to do the work it takes, there is always “failure” waiting for those promises.
Discipline;
is said to be the glue that holds our intentions together when motivation fails. The only fault in that is if you still “fail” to do those things that you say you want to do, Not only are you “unmotivated” but “undisciplined” also. Psychologically this is a big double whammy, and king of the best ways to beat yourself up with. I see so many people stuck in this space between motivation and discipline. Shooting volleys back and forth between what they want and their ability to get it until they are lost. Depression takes over and then “failure” becomes the gigantic monster in their life that stands at the door of every dream and aspiration shouting “don’t go in there” and “only go in if success is guaranteed”.
Stop this bus, I want to get off.
In order to help give the “Failure” monster his pink slip from your life. Here are a few ways that I have my clients find passion and joy from their journey to their healthiest life. Build a mental voice that praises them not punish and forever stop the Motivation-Discipline tennis match.
Make it a pleasure. One reason we might put off something that will help us achieve our goal, such as exercise for example, is because it seems like hard work. Well, this might be true, but the key is to find a way to make it fun or pleasurable. If your goal activity becomes a treat, you actually look forward to it. And that’s a good thing.
Give it time, be patient. I know, this is easier said than done. But the problem with many of us is that we expect quick results. When you think about your goals, think long term. If you want to lose weight, you may see some quick initial losses, but it will take a long time to lose the rest. If you want to run a marathon, you won’t be able to do it overnight. If you don’t see the results you want soon, don’t give up … give it time. In the meantime, be happy with your progress so far, and with your ability to stick with your goals. The results will come if you give it time.
Make it a rule never to skip two days in a row. This rule takes into account our natural tendency to miss days now and then. We are not perfect. So, you missed one day … now the second day is upon you and you are feeling lazy … tell yourself NO! You will not miss two days in a row! Zen Habits says so! And just get started. You’ll thank yourself later.
Always think positive. Monitor your thoughts. Be aware of your self-talk. We all talk to ourselves, a lot, but we are not always aware of these thoughts. Start listening. If you hear negative thoughts, stop them, push them out, and replace them with positive thoughts. Positive thinking can be amazingly powerful.
Simple, right? That is what makes them so successful. Be good to yourself and say nice things. Throw out those negative terms that make you feel alone and embrace the journey. Besides, nobody talks about my friends that way. ghouston@mvhospital.net
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